Well here is something that is fundamental to how you experience your world and how it has been for you. Once again it’s can all be taken with a pinch of salt as with everything I write or say, as it is only and can only be based on my truth, my story or experiences. Does that make sense? We learn from experience but the question is who’s experiences will it be is? Read on and learn to unlearn.
For quite a while I have been interested in the world of self-help, self or personal development, hypnotism and changing my life. Not that my life was particularly bad back then but at the time it always seemed that I wasn't like other guys. I guess it felt like I had the capability or capacity to do good things but I felt I couldn’t learn things like other people. I seemed to lack, what appears be a very rare commodity called “common sense”. What I mean by this is, things and ways of working just never entered my mind at all when it seemed so easy for others. So I would felt a bit stupid when colleagues would jump in get things done, right there in front of me and I would be standing beside them thinking “that was clever, wish I was like that”. A bit like watching my house burn down and someone running over getting a hose or calling the fire brigade while I was merrily marvelling at the pretty colours of the flames and how they danced!
So anyway I searched and no for answers and not on Google, this was back in the late 80’s. But I did come across a couple of books on Self-hypnosis (one of which by a very young dude by the name of “Paul McKenna”) and tried it but didn’t really do much. I now know that I was basically several rungs up the ladder in my thirst but was trying to build my house from the ceiling upwards and not from the foundations upwards. Cool thing is though, is that the understanding and experiences do stay with you and simply get incorporated into the structure as you building and grow once you build some foundations. So for all those that feel that they are now where I was back then chill, it’s all good. Of course this also highlights the need to often go back to the source or get down to the basics first. One of the things that has been interesting too is the fact that the really good personal development books are the vintage ones. You know, “Success, Through a Positive Mental Attitude”, “Think and Grow Rich”, “Grow Rich While you Sleep”, “Magic of Thinking Big”, “Stop Worrying and Start Living” “The Bible” and many more. Maybe it’s just my habit of going back to the source or the origins of things (see Own it. What’s in a Name?), as it peels away the crud and fluff that can be built up over time.
Clarity is Power
When you were a kid and you came to understand the concept of Christmas your mind was open to all manner of possibilities as to what to ask Santa. The list what you want, write it down and assume having it. Sounds familiar doesn’t it? Who can remember dreaming of something you desired as a kid while sleeping and the dream was so convincing that you’re sure that when you woke up that you already were in possession of it? More times than not eventually we ended up having that dream come true. I now know why that is. I didn’t care why that was when I was a kid I just wanted what I wanted. Now after years of disappointment I understand where I went right and where I went wrong and why. The truth is (my truth) that what we want is out there and we receive it every day. But now you’re going to come back to me and say “wait a minute… I didn’t want this problem. I never asked for this.” Yep, you did or maybe not but did you actually ask for what you wanted or did you focus on why you wanted what you wanted?
What the hell does that mean?
Well, you might say I want to get to work on time cos’ I need to get a project underway and/or the bosses going to give me the evil eye when I’m late and I hate that. So, you set about going to work. Now if you focused on getting into work early the most of the time that is what happens, things snap into place and you get into work. Consequently, you might spend all you time focusing on why you need to be getting into work, you see the bosses face you see you’re project not starting on time, you running out of time at the end of the day, chasing around to get things finished etc. You would prefer to have the good things happen of what happens by coming into work on time but instead you focusing on the consequences or what happens if you don’t. What you’re now doing is embracing the idea of not getting into work on time. It now becomes the expanding possibility in your world. You’re possible truth and guess what, what you focus on expands or becomes you target. So in effect that’s what you wanted.
So you see everything you want is all around you and you’re either tuned into receiving them or you looking in the wrong direction and receiving the other thing you want, if you know what I mean, which puts a throttle on getting what you really wanted. Ultimately we choose.